A dominatrix is often associated with Corporal Punishment. Personally, I love this role-playing game of flagellation. But where are the real masochists, the men who like to be spanked with a cane, or a riding crop onto their butt?
But what do men find so appealing about corporal punishment?
Let's start with the definition of the term "English education". English education is a sadomasochistic game in which the masochistic playing partner receives blows on selected parts of the body with the cane, the rod or a whip.
Other terms that are often used in relation to corporal punishment are flagellation or spanking. There are different reasons why a man finds the pain during an corporal punishment roleplay so appealing:
- The sexual pleasure caused by the pain, which are created by targeted blows during a pleasurable chastisement on certain parts of the body.
- The feeling of losing control or to let oneself go is especially sought after by successful gentlemen in higher positions.
- The feeling of punishment and humiliation during various spanking games.
- The psychological component in which loving touches and painful blows are experienced. Thus, the memory of the past, when a loved one has punished you severely.
It is quite common that a masochist does not find all flagellation instruments appealing. Some like the classic cane, others the riding crop. For some, the spanking instrument must be made of a certain material, have a certain shape, or give off a certain pain.
Where does this game between pleasure and pain actually come from?
Since the 19th century, records of spanking practices can be found in European countries, but it is believed that at that time corporal punishment was not carried out everywhere in a sexual context.
The first roots of flagellation come from english brothels in which the noblemen of that time could be subjected to a punishment szene. There were also erotic documents circulating in which one could read about the punishment of students who were spanked with a cane or whip for bad behavior.
Corporal Punishment has therefore been a popular roleplay for centuries which is still practiced today in the BDSM context as well as in a private environment.
What is corporal punishment nowadays?
First of all, you need to be clear about whether you feel pleasure in pain or not. Is the mere thought of getting your butt spanked by a beautiful woman enough for you? Are you a masochistic and do your fantasies revolve around the pleasure of pain that arises during a spanking session, or do you just want to let yourself go and be punished? Have you sexualized the pleasure of pain, so that the pain is a trigger to feel sexual pleasure, or to experience a climax? Are you one of the "gentler" flagellants who prefer a light lash without traces or do you like the "extreme" side with cane and calluses until it bleeds?
As you can see, the spectrum is huge, ranging from the extreme masochist who enjoys the merciless training, to the submissive role-playing lover, who is more concerned with showing his submissiveness by being easily humiliated with the whip.
Bruno, a 60-year-old masochist from Cologne and a old school play partner of mine, explains: "There is nothing more stimulating than subjecting myself to my mistress. To put me over the penalty buck and feel her watered cane. When Amalie von Stein stands over me with a smile on her lips, I hear the hiss in the air and shortly afterwards feel the cane on my bare ass, then comes the pain and after I feel pleasure, exactly this is what intrigues me and grants me this incredibly horny moment."
In regards of caning, I have more mature gentlemen in my clientele with whom I enjoy this special kind of role-playing scene. Our role plays are very multifaceted and range from the teacher to the student, to the prison guard and the prisoner. For my classic lovers of corporal punishment, however, the strict appearance of me as a dominatrix, as well as the rigorous drill is in the foreground. As a chastening person, I train my subordinate certain behaviors and if they fail, they are punished.
First of all, you need to be clear about whether you feel pleasure in pain or not. Is the mere thought of getting your butt spanked by a beautiful woman enough for you? Are you a masochistic and do your fantasies revolve around the pleasure of pain that arises during a spanking session, or do you just want to let yourself go and be punished? Have you sexualized the pleasure of pain, so that the pain is a trigger to feel sexual pleasure, or to experience a climax? Are you one of the "gentler" flagellants who prefer a light lash without traces or do you like the "extreme" side with cane and calluses until its bleeding?
What kind of practices are there?
Spanking
Spanking is a practice in which the clothed or exposed buttocks are hit with a instrument that causes pain. However, it does not have to be the buttocks, other parts of the body can also be beaten, such as: the thighs, the back or on the genital organs.
Flagellation
Traditionally, flagellation is practiced by hitting someone with a whip, rod or cane. It is a practice in which extreme physical pain is inflicted on the flagellant. The flagellation is used as punishment in education and administration of justice, as a religious penance exercise or as a sado-masochistic sexual practice in the private or professional sphere.
Bastinado
The Bastinado, Falaka, or formerly known as "sole stroke" is mainly used in the Middle and Far Eastern countries. The Bastinado is a practice of chastisement or torture in which a sequence of blows is performed on the bare soles of a person's feet.
Caning
*see flagellation
What are the different punishment instruments?
- Riding crops
- Cane sticks
- Paddles, straps and clubs
- Flogger
- Rubber whips, horsehair- and chainwhips
- Singletails
- Martinet
- Tawse
- "Ochsenziemer" dried taurus penis
- Birch rod, willow rod, hazel bush
- Household items such as: carpet beater, hairbrush, ruler, cooking spoon, belt,...
On the subject of spanking instruments, I have already created many interesting You Tube posts YouTube Seite Fetisch Matter with Amalie von Stein.
Are there any risks and what should you pay attention to?
Of course there are risks! We are talking about a practice in which we torture our counterpart and if we hit them in a wrong way or on wrong parts of their bodys, it can lead to injuries, health problems and / or long-term damage.
That doesn't sound so sexually appealing anymore, does it!? For this reason, I strongly advise the active or dominant partner to have prior anatomical knowledge. Nowadays you can inform yourself in advance, there are even groups which offer BDSM meetings and there are lots of coaching opportunities, these can also be booked with me. Information can be found on my website under BDSM coaching.
After you have enjoyed such an introductory course as a beginner, you can approach your partner in a completely different way and then experience corporal punishment, a spanking scenario or a flagellation role-playing game in a safe way together.
Why should this kind of game between sadomasochist and masochist be threatened with extinction?
New generations, new sexual preferences and ideas show me that the current BDSM trend is moving away from classical BDSM play. Today's sexually adventurous that people seem to want are a bit of everything and are they are no longer satisfied with a single practice.
That's why I'm sure that corporal punishment may change a bit in the coming years, but there will always be lovers of classical caning who searching for this practise alone and appreciate exactly that.
As a sadist, I can only say that it is an incredible moment when you inflict a long-awaited pleasure to someone who really loves it. When you give someone so much pain and you torment him until the scene ends in an incredible orgasm for the masochist!
Your Amalie von Stein